You are Resilient – Allow your heart to break

When we practice yoga, when we connect consciously with our breath, we re-conect to our bodies.  We come back into the feeling center, which is absolutely necessary for any real substantial change to happen.

It is not that we don’t care about what is happening in the world,  like the degradation of our environment for example.  We do.  We are just scared to feel pain, so it is easier to disconnect and avoid the possibility of what even the thought of pain may do to us.

Feel the pain.  You will be okay.  You will come out on the other side stronger and with more wisdom to offer.  We need your wisdom and what you have to offer.

Pain is not the problem, it is how we react to the thought of pain.  I challenge you to just be with your pain.  Whatever it is.  See if you can allow yourself to be with it, and notice what happes.

We numb ourseves with food, alcohol, sex, shopping, and let’s not forget pharmaceuticals.  We are in the midst of an enormous opioid cisis, all because we are running scared from the mere thought of pain.

It is okay.  Joanna Macy asks us to allow our hearts to break.  She says, “The heart that
breaks open can contain the whole universe.”

When we allow ourselves to feel what needs to be felt, the feeling will pass.  As Pema Chodron says, “We are the sky, everything else is just the weather.”

We are so resilient.  Allow yourself to be resilient.

we are the ones we've been waiting for


Traveling with Purpose – Part I – Xinalani

You’ve heard me talk about showing up on purpose. Well, now, we’re traveling with purpose! Are you starting to see a trend?

I found Xinalani (pronounced she-nah-lah-knee), an eco-luxe resort that’s off the grid, over a year ago, in early 2012, while doing research of where I would like to host my own dream transformational yoga retreat some day. I even put together a Prezi presentation for this one-day-to-be dream retreat. Of course, I had no idea when this would be, but you see, I believe, we have the ability to create our experiences of life! I didn’t think much of this mock retreat after as I was busy putting together the final details of our wedding, which was held in Sedona, AZ on 11/11/12.

Around the same time, I also happened to learn of a woman called Kim Anami, when I was fortunate enough to stumble upon an article called “The 4-Hour Sex Date” she had written in, one of my favorite online newsletters. Well, c’mon, how could I not read that one! You’ve got to admit, the title is intriguing…and so is the article.

So, imagine my excitement, when I realized that Kim Anami was hosting a retreat called the “Orgasmic Enlightenment Retreat” at Xinalani right at the time of my husband’s and my one year wedding anniversary! We registered for the retreat, packed our bags, and hopped a quick flight from Phoenix to Puerto Vallarta! Why not? Life is about experiences! And those experiences that push us out of our comfort zones…well, you see, those experiences are the best! That’s when the real growth & magic happens!

When we arrived at the airport in Puerto Vallarta, there was a car waiting for us that took us to the port, where we boarded a small boat that would take us to Xinalani, as it is only accessible by boat! Doesn’t that just add to the adventure of it all!?

Xinalani boat ride arrival  I had no idea how beautiful Puerto Vallarta is! We were taken aback by the lush jungle covered mountains that came right down to meet the blue sea. We were greeted by some of the resident dolphins, and we just never stopped smiling during the approximately 45 minute boat trip!

When we arrived, this is what we saw!

  Xinalani arrivalXinalani Suite 3

Our home for the next week! I could already feel myself becoming lighter; at ease. Returning back to my natural state of being.

Xinalani private beach

One of the many life-changing experiences we had over the course of this week was the opportunity to swim & interact with wild dolphins. What I want you to understand is that these dolphins are wild and free. An organization called Wildlife Connection has a team of biologists that has been working with one of the three resident Banderas Bay dolphin pods for 16 years and have known some of the dolphins in this pod since they were born. They offer the opportunity to visit these fabulous animals in their natural environment and to participate in a research project that helps us understand and protect our dolphins.  Please do not contribute to capturing more dolphins! Visit them in their own environment because FREE DOLPHINS ARE HAPPY DOLPHINS!!! Watch video of our dolphin experience here!

Over the course of the week, we connected deeply with nature, nourished our bodies with meditation, yoga and delicious organic food made by our private chef, and absolutely fell in love with the people and essence of not only Xinalani, but the small town next door called Quimixto, which is also only accessible by boat, and just about a 10 minute walk away.

Part II of this blog will be coming soon with more about Quimixto!

Finally, I’ll leave you with this video farewell we were given from two beautiful hump back whales. 

Steve and I are working with Xinalani to design our own retreat in November 2014! We hope you can join us next year!  

Until next time. xo

Xinalani Steve and India