“The most complete and true happiness comes in moments when you feel right there, completely present, with no ideas about good and bad, right and wrong — just a sense of open heart and open mind.” ~ Pema Chodron
Let me begin by saying I believe with every part of my being that the greatest thing we can ever learn is just to love and be loved in return. If you are planning to be married soon, Congratulations! I was married almost 8 months ago, and it has been wonderful! However, don’t be fooled, leading up to the big day was stressful and confusing at times. If it weren’t for the tools of Yoga, I don’t know if things would have turned out the way they have and I can tell you my husband definitely is appreciative! That is why I have launched Yoga for Brides to Bee and am passionate and committed to guiding the bride and anyone involved in making your wedding day perfect in every way.
Sometimes leading up to the “big day,” our wedding day we can forget about the present moment, neglecting the here and now, therefore losing sight of what really matters. Marriage is about commitment, partnership and a lifetime of sharing, growing and learning. However, sometimes, we forget and make the mistake of thinking it’s all about this one day.
With that said, the ceremony of our wedding day is an extremely important and special occassion. In fact, it is so special and important, I believe that we should relish in every single second of it. However, I hear from so many brides that their wedding day was a whirlwind that just flew by and that they don’t really remember any of it! I’m here to tell you, that there is a remedy for that.
No matter who it is, we all just want to feel seen. We especially want to feel seen by our partner. If we are constantly looking toward future events, our mind cannot be present in the here and now with our partner, which can lead to our partner feeling neglected.
We don’t want to go into our wedding day feeling disconnected from our partner, so it is important to remain present and connected with your partner remembering the celebration of marriage is really a celebration of your love and connection. (Partner Yoga is a great way to connect!)
Below are some tips for when you feel your mind wandering, on overload, anxious and catch yourself living too much in the future.
1. PAUSE. Take a breath and ask yourself, is this thinking/behavior moving me toward stillness or away from stillness? This is an excellent litmus test that works every single time.
2. For those times when your mind just won’t seem to stop no matter what you do and your anxiety is topping the charts, try the Bumble Bee Breath (Bhramari Pranayama). Again, this works every time! The Bumble Bee Breath is an ancient yoga breathing technique that imitates the sound of a bumble bee. It is very relaxing and prompts the release of seratonin.
Some benefits: – calms the mind and soothes anxiety – helps memory and concentration – good for headaches including migraines – good for the thyroid
How to do it: 1. Sit comfortably 2. Relax your shoulders 3. Close your throat slightly so you can hear your breath when you breathe in 4. Cover your ears with your thumbs and gently rest your fingers over your eyes 5. Keep your lips closed but lightly and your teeth slightly apart with your jaw relaxed and breathe out slowly making a long, low humming sound, similar to the buzzing of a bee 6. Make your exhalation long and smooth
Repeat 5-10 times. Then sit with long slow breaths for a couple of minutes and enjoy the peace.
3. Last but definitely not least. Be kind to yourself. This can be a stressful time and you more than anyone else deserve your love. In Yoga, we practice Legs up the Wall or Viparita Karani. It’s a restorative pose that’s also an inversion, that opens the heart and gives a boost of energy by encouraging deep rest in the body and mind. We all need strategies to help us maneuver through life’s difficult days with some measure of sanity and grace.
(Note: Skip it if you’re pregnant, have blood pressure, have a history of stroke or heart failure, or have glaucoma.)
1. Sit next to a wall with the side of your body on the wall and your knees bent into the chest.
2. Bring the lower back onto the floor while bringing the legs up the wall. Keep the upper body supported with the elbows on the floor.
3. Slowly release the elbows and lower the whole back down to the floor.
4. If you are comfortable, stay here several minutes.
5. To come out, bring the knees into your chest and roll to your side.
If you’re interested in learning more about how Yoga can support you leading up to your wedding day, please contact me directly at email@example.com or complete the contact form below.