Happiness sure seems to be creating a lot of buzzz

I’ve seen so many articles and comments recently about happiness. It’s interesting. Half of the articles talk about why being happy is the answer to our struggles and the other half talk about why happiness, or the pursuit of happiness, is a bunch of bologna.

So, in my opinion, here’s the deal.

1. Labels don’t help – Happy/Sad. Good/Bad. Right/Wrong. STOP!!!

2. Life is about balance – The tide rolls in. The tide rolls out. “If you don’t become the ocean, you’ll be seasick every day.” – Leonard Cohen

3. Allow yourself to feel – Check in. Take a quick body scan starting at the crown of your head and moving down.

I do believe that happiness can be a choice. I do believe that our thoughts can lead us toward stillness and peace (a.k.a. happiness) or away from it.

SO, overall, these articles, quotes and sharings about happiness, in my opinion, are valuable, because they may help to bring some AWARENESS to those of us that don’t really understand why we don’t feel “happy.”

What does that really mean anyway? Moving on…

With that said, NOONE is going to feel happy all of the time. Haha! Life is about polarity; balance. What goes up, must come down.

Here’s the catch. We have to be OKAY with being whatever we consider the opposite of happy. We have to give ourselves the SPACE to FEEL sad, anxious, lonely, etc, etc.

But it’s so scary! I know!

What if I stay there forever? You won’t.

What if I’m never able to get out of bed again and my tears never stop flowing? You will. And they will!

All I’m saying is that bringing AWARENESS around the idea that we actually play a part in the way we feel by the CHOICES we make is a good first step. After this, TRUST that when you are feeling down and it seems like everyone else is bouncing around happy as can be, that it’s OKAY. Allow yourself to be sad, to be mad, to feel lonely, and then LET IT GO. You choose.

Sending Love today and everyday.

xo ~ India



Traveling with Purpose – Part I – Xinalani

You’ve heard me talk about showing up on purpose. Well, now, we’re traveling with purpose! Are you starting to see a trend?

I found Xinalani (pronounced she-nah-lah-knee), an eco-luxe resort that’s off the grid, over a year ago, in early 2012, while doing research of where I would like to host my own dream transformational yoga retreat some day. I even put together a Prezi presentation for this one-day-to-be dream retreat. Of course, I had no idea when this would be, but you see, I believe, we have the ability to create our experiences of life! I didn’t think much of this mock retreat after as I was busy putting together the final details of our wedding, which was held in Sedona, AZ on 11/11/12.

Around the same time, I also happened to learn of a woman called Kim Anami, when I was fortunate enough to stumble upon an article called “The 4-Hour Sex Date” she had written in www.MindBodyGreen.com, one of my favorite online newsletters. Well, c’mon, how could I not read that one! You’ve got to admit, the title is intriguing…and so is the article.

So, imagine my excitement, when I realized that Kim Anami was hosting a retreat called the “Orgasmic Enlightenment Retreat” at Xinalani right at the time of my husband’s and my one year wedding anniversary! We registered for the retreat, packed our bags, and hopped a quick flight from Phoenix to Puerto Vallarta! Why not? Life is about experiences! And those experiences that push us out of our comfort zones…well, you see, those experiences are the best! That’s when the real growth & magic happens!

When we arrived at the airport in Puerto Vallarta, there was a car waiting for us that took us to the port, where we boarded a small boat that would take us to Xinalani, as it is only accessible by boat! Doesn’t that just add to the adventure of it all!?

Xinalani boat ride arrival  I had no idea how beautiful Puerto Vallarta is! We were taken aback by the lush jungle covered mountains that came right down to meet the blue sea. We were greeted by some of the resident dolphins, and we just never stopped smiling during the approximately 45 minute boat trip!

When we arrived, this is what we saw!

  Xinalani arrivalXinalani Suite 3

Our home for the next week! I could already feel myself becoming lighter; at ease. Returning back to my natural state of being.

Xinalani private beach

One of the many life-changing experiences we had over the course of this week was the opportunity to swim & interact with wild dolphins. What I want you to understand is that these dolphins are wild and free. An organization called Wildlife Connection has a team of biologists that has been working with one of the three resident Banderas Bay dolphin pods for 16 years and have known some of the dolphins in this pod since they were born. They offer the opportunity to visit these fabulous animals in their natural environment and to participate in a research project that helps us understand and protect our dolphins.  Please do not contribute to capturing more dolphins! Visit them in their own environment because FREE DOLPHINS ARE HAPPY DOLPHINS!!! Watch video of our dolphin experience here!

Over the course of the week, we connected deeply with nature, nourished our bodies with meditation, yoga and delicious organic food made by our private chef, and absolutely fell in love with the people and essence of not only Xinalani, but the small town next door called Quimixto, which is also only accessible by boat, and just about a 10 minute walk away.

Part II of this blog will be coming soon with more about Quimixto!

Finally, I’ll leave you with this video farewell we were given from two beautiful hump back whales. 

Steve and I are working with Xinalani to design our own retreat in November 2014! We hope you can join us next year!  

Until next time. xo

Xinalani Steve and India


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I worked for the #1 International business school in the world at the time of the BP oil spill. After the spill, a graduate from the school was named CEO of BP. Of course, the school was so proud writing articles and bragging that a graduate of their institution had been hand picked to literally CLEAN UP THIS ENVIRONMENTAL DISASTER! Let’s hope he was hired to really clean up the disaster for all, and not to just wipe the reputation of BP clean…

If we as a world cannot agree to use more environmentally friendly methods to sustain our lifestyles, the LEAST we can do, is be held accountable and do the RIGHT thing for ALL THE PEOPLE, ANIMALS, PLANTS & TREES of our Earth. Is MONEY & profit really more important than the health and well being of our world? I think not.

If you’re not aware of what has been going on with Chevron/Texaco in the Ecuadorian Amazon Rainforest since 2006, PLEASE take a moment to check out this short video. If you’d like to learn more, I’m more than happy to share additional resources! Please feel free to reach out to me directly. Thank you.

Click Here to watch Video:  “An $8 billion battle that’s pitted one of the world’s biggest oil companies against some of the most vulnerable tribes of the Amazon.”  

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